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Have you ever felt like you’re are just floating? Not sure of where you’re heading? I know I have. Hanson’s(n.d) theory of negativity bias is quite evident. Despite our history of success and positive reinforcement, a single negative comment can haunt our minds. It affects our confidence and mood.I recall a time when I was a journalist in Dhaka, Bangladesh. Throughout my career, I received praise for my reporting, my talent for breaking stories, and my ability to connect with readers. But one day, one of my article drew sharp criticism from a senior editor. Despite the so many positive feedback, this critique hit me hard. I found myself stuck on the negative feedback. I started questioning my journalistic instincts and skills. . It took a while, but eventually, I came to terms with it.
Years later, I understand that we shouldn’t be shaken by minor life incidents. Schools play a vital role in preparing children to stand their ground during adversities. To create an environment that “lifts all boats,” principals have to lead by example. They should foster positive and empathetic interactions. Daniel Goleman (2006) highlights the concept of the “social brain,” highlighting how our interactions and emotional states influence one another. This shows the importance of creating a supportive and connected school culture. Social-emotional learning (SEL) programs teach essential skills like self-awareness and empathy, helping students build positive and compassionate connections with others and themselves.
Challenges are part of life’s journey. Resilience means not just staying positive but also finding the strength to keep going. So, if you ever feel lost, remember you’re not alone. Stay true to yourself, be kind to others, and together we can make a better future.
References
Goleman, D. (2006). The socially intelligent. Educational leadership, 64(1), 76-81.
Hanson, R. (n.d.). Taking in the Good vs. the Negativity Bias. San Francisco State University.
Your reflection on negative experiences reminds me of my own constant worry and fear of failure, leading me to over-prepare at times. This pattern has caused me to miss some opportunities, stemming from a lack of resilience. I wholeheartedly agree with your point that principals and school leaders should be responsible for fostering students’ resilience. If teachers require SEL training to help students develop social-emotional skills, principals and leaders need even more extensive training.
During my four years at an elementary school, I worked under five principals. Except for one, most were disrespectful and authoritarian, causing hardworking teachers to feel unappreciated and even leave. This leadership style clearly undermines resilience in both teachers and students. School leaders must receive proper training to learn how to support and motivate teachers, thereby creating a positive, supportive learning environment.
You both have great examples of how the negativity bias can negatively influence us, often for a very long time. Even though we hear many compliments, one negative comment can undermind all the positive ones. Having an overly critical leader can undermine our motivation and resilience as in Pan’s example. It is critical to be aware of the negativity bias and look more objectively at negative comments. Then, treat ourselves with self-compassion 🙂